Saturday, 13 September 2008

Single White Female

You may have ben wondering what all the drama was about earlier this week and the posting on the private blog etc. Well as it's now official I can share it with you.

Himself and I are going our separate ways.

There are many reasons, none of which I want to divulge here, but it's been coming for some time and neither of us can carry on the way we have been.

I can't explain how I feel because I don't really know myself at the moment. A mixture of guilt, relief and trepidation perhaps.

The Lurchers, and of course Brodie, will stay with me. I was concerned that he would want to take Lurcher No.1 with him but he sees that it would be unfair to separate them after all these years.

14 years we have been together and life on my own is going to take some getting used to.

33 comments:

  1. Wishing you strength at this no doubt stressful time. As we get older change often becomes more difficult to cope with or undertake but sometimes staying where we are can be bad for us. Best wishes.

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  2. You know that my thoughts are with you. These kind of transitions are difficult, but you have made the first and biggest step towards your new life. Take care.

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  3. Angela the first step is often the hardest and you can now begin to relax and plan your next step. I know you have some good friends and your blog buddies are here to support you. Glad the dogs are staying with you. (Big Hugs)

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  4. Big hugs Angela, you have both probably done the best possible thing for yourselves right now, and though this might seem daunting sounds like the best step for you.

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  5. Sail on peaceful seas under a calm breeze, plotting your own course!

    GOOD for you, I say! GOOD FOR YOU!!!

    hugs-
    Patience

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  6. Take extra good care of yourself right now ... this is a new adventure, a sad and reflective time, and one that full of opportunities as well. I've been there and am sending you hugs ... oh ... Booker is sending slobber and relieved that your pack will not be dismantled any more than needed.

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  7. I'll be thinking about you, sweetie. I know how hard it is to leave a long term relationship, even when you're the one who wants the end to come.

    Take good care of yourself, Angela.

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  8. Ah … been there myself and empathize with the feelings you must be experiencing. My husband of 21 years (best friend for 33) decided he no longer wanted to be married and left me when I was 44 … a few weeks after my mom died. There were lots of changes … much to ‘process’ … and I filled MANY a journal with all kinds of words … but today, almost 20 years later I can honestly say that the journey has been one of healing and growth I treasure. You’ll be in my prayers.
    Hugs and blessings,

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  9. Sorry to hear your news - been there myself but when I was 24 years. Hope you find peace and I will be thinking of you.

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  10. My thoughts go out to you. Been there and stayed by myself for a v-e-r-y long time. I learned to take one day at a time. All the advice you read here is very good, especially to take care of YOU first. A day at a time and take all the hugs you can get: here are some from way over here in Missouri!

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  11. Angela, Good luck, you've made the hard decision and listened to your heart. Things will get better. Tons of love coming your way.

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  12. Hugs. I can understand something of how you feel: I had been with s 18 years & married nearly 15 before I had to have him arrested for violence & abuse. My sister told me that making the decision was the hardest part (she'd been there before me). Here's wishing you all the best with your new life. I can highly recommend dogs as bed companions, or maybe I just have a very skewed view of men after my experiences! Glad they all get to stay together

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  13. Angela, my thoughts are with you,
    Gina xxx

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  14. big hugs to you Angela...be kind and patient with yourself.

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  15. Sending big hugs your way. I hope all the best for you. I'm glad the little ones get to stay together. This is the tough part, but it'll get better. Hang in there. xx

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  16. It's been a possibility for a while, hasn't it? I'd been hoping things would sort themselves out, but sometimes it's just not meant to be. It won;t be easy but you're strong and you have friends who're here with an open ear and a shoulder when needed. I hope you can both remain on civil terms - it makes life easier.

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  17. I'm so sorry but I'm sure it is for the best - not that it makes life any easier at the moment. Take care - it will be hard but it's for the best I'm sure. And you have the lovely dogs for comfort.

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  18. Hang in there...and you have taken the first step of many. Life is too short to settle for what you feel isn't right for you, so think of it as a positive move.

    I can't say how happy I am that the Lurchers will be staying with you.

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  19. The best thing you could have done! I will never forget reading one of your posts in which you said he had told you he would never love you. I wanted to say then "Get rid fast" but you can't say those things. In my opinion he was TOXIC and you will thrive without him. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Lots of Love. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  20. I left a relationship with the father of my sons this time last year. I have never regretted it. It felt hard at the time (so much conflict of emotion, all the uncertainty, the feeling of starting something big and scary and unimaginable).

    And now? I cannot tell you how happy I am. I would never have guessed I would feel this way - not in a million years. But it is wonderful just to be in charge of my own life, to have my own peace - not to feel lonely in a house with someone else.

    So I wish you luck and happiness. And talk to people - you sound like you have great friends, so turn to them.

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  21. Sometimes I think lesley rigby and I were twins separated at birth!

    Just checking in to deliver another round of cyber hugs-
    Patience and the whippets, too

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  22. I'm sorry you are going through this.
    You still have all of us

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  23. Wow. Ok.

    When times are tough, and it seems like it's all going wrong, REMEMBER why you made the decision and what you're aiming for.

    Best of luck to both of you... I'm sure you will look back in times to come and really know deep in your heart that it was absolutely the right thing to do. And maybe wonder why you didn't do it sooner!

    x

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  24. love, thoughts and prayers are with you - a tough, painful decision to make after 14 years but I will be thinking of you. lots of love and hugs Judyx

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  25. Good Lord! I'm unconscious for one weekend and the whole world goes to heck.
    I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this.
    My thoughts are with you.

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  26. Angela, I hate that you are going through this. Even if you know it's for the best and that you will be super happy in the end, it's a difficult road you have to go down to get to the happy part sometimes. I was there about 5 years ago when I went through my divorce. Hugs....you're in my thoughts and prayers.

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  27. Catching up on posts and wow! I'm sorry you are going through this. There's nothing I can say that hasn't already been said by other commenters but I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and hugging you from here.

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  28. Oh my, best of luck. Take care!
    Hugs.

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  29. Hugs to you sweetie. You will get through this but I'm sure it can't be easy. So glad you're keeping Brodie though.

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